Do We Expect To Achieve In Therapy?
you can expect to achieve depends on many things.
It may be helpful to ask yourself some questions
such as . . .
- Am I currently
experiencing a crisis?
- Is the crisis
temporary or is my life one continual crisis after
- Do I just
want to feel better?
- Do I believe
that my problems and worries are due to someone
- Do I expect
my mother, my sister, my spouse, my partner, my
children, people at work, to change?
- Am I at
one of those ages or stages in my life where I am
beginning to outgrow my old self . . . my old interests;
the things I used to do no longer satisfy me? .
. . Am I starting to see things differently, and
just don't know what to do?
- I don't
have a family or children and my biological clock
is ticking away?
- My relationships
don't satisfy me the way they used to.
- I am finally
ready to "come out of the closet" about
who I really am and I'm scared to death!
- I am wondering
if this is all there is to life; what's my purpose?
Will I ever be happy or contented?
- I am old
enough now that I'm noticing some patterns to my
behavior and in my relationships that aren't so
good, but I don't know how to change them. What
do I do?
- I am feeling
stuck and don't know how to get unstuck.
- I'm wondering
if someone in my life - or myself may have an addiction
- I'm depressed,
angry, or having anxiety attacks.
- I cry sometimes
for no reason at all.
Perhaps what you wish
to achieve is more of a religious or spiritual nature
. . .
- My view of God and
religion are changing.
- I'm no longer satisfied
with my religion.
- I'm beginning to
question things. I wonder if it's okay to question
God and my religious beliefs.
- I'm comfortable
with my spirituality; but want to more deeply explore
who I am from a spiritual perspective.
What you can expect
to achieve through therapy depends mostly on what
brings you to therapy and your willingness and readiness
to make some changes. We will take a look at your
background and family history. We will take a look
at where you currently are in your life and where
you want to be. We will develop a map with goals
and objectives to assist us in helping you to move
forward. We will revisit this map at times to make
sure we are on track and to make changes or corrections
If you are in crisis
and your only goal is to get through the crisis
and feel better, then we will work on tools and
techniques to help you ease your fears and anxiety
and help to improve your ability to cope with the
If you are ready
to take a deeper look at your life and just how
your beliefs and attitudes keep you imprisoned,
then your map and goals will take on a deeper- broader
perspective. I may ask you to look at your life
by breaking it into smaller parts and identifying
any areas you might like to see change, such as
family, relationships, health, work or career, education,
financial, religious and spiritual, legal, drug
and alcohol use, recreation and fun.
What do I do?
There are many things
that I do – I give homework – I provide
you with techniques and tools to move forward; but
what I feel is the most important part of my job
is very difficult to put in words; what I want to
offer my clients is my presence. I meet you where
you are . . . I am present with you in your sorrow,
your sadness, your confusion, your stuck-ness, your
happiness. I walk with you on your journey into
the muckiness, into the darkness . . . I am present
with you without judgment. I offer you a safe comfortable
place to be – a safe place for you to listen
to your own deepest longing. We will attempt to
shift your emotional energy to a place that feels
me for further